Steps in Overcoming Comparison
In the age of social media comparison can be such a real & daily struggle. It’s so easy to want to compare yourself to those around you & those on your Instagram timeline. The reason I am writing about this subject is because comparison has been hitting me hard lately & has caused me to doubt myself tremendously these past few weeks. As much as I am hoping to write this post to encourage others I have to be honest in saying a lot of this blog post is for me to hear! I want this to be a tool that you & I can reference and be encourage by during rough moments of comparison!
A few concepts of comparison I am learning:
1. Comparison is the thief of joy: All around I would say I am a very happy guy who chooses to find joy in the rough moments. However, when it comes to comparison it deprives me of my true purpose & joy.
2. Comparison is often off balance: What I mean by this one is when we typically compare we tend to take the worst part of ourselves and compare it to the best part of those we are comparing to. Ultimately the scale will be tipped leaving us feeling down about ourselves.
3. Comparison steals your time: I can’t tell you the amount of moments I have spent these 2 weeks comparing myself when I could have been writing, creating, or doing work. Wasting your time comparing is only digging yourself in a hole because you’ll soon look around to only be discouraged that you’ve accomplished nothing.
There is more I could say on this however, I think more time should be spent on helpful tools to fight comparison. I am by far not an expert on the subject but I am someone who is working on this.
1. Take a break & breathe: Allow yourself to feel what you need to in the moment but also allow yourself time to move along. Get up from your phone, computer, or couch and change up the view. Allow your body to take in newness as you breath in a new way of thinking/new perspective.
2. Recall your success: Ask yourself how often you sit back and remind yourself of how far you’ve come. Be intentional about recognizing your success & find the motivation you need in them to pursue more dreams.
3. Be grateful: I believe this one goes along well with the last point. As you take time to recall your success also take time to speak out in gratitude for how far you’ve come, the experiences you’ve had, & the struggles you’ve overcome. Overall, let gratitude fuel your day.
4. Shift your thinking: This one isn’t easy but instead of comparing to someone ask what about them is challenging you. Is it because you wish you could dance like they could? Well than take a class & be inspired to dance. Is it because you wish you could travel as often? Well reach out & seek to understand tips on how to budget so you can take a trip. If we can learn from one another & eliminate words such as better, prettier, more successful, or greater we can all walk toward the goal of become the best version of ourselves.
I must admit this blog wasn’t an easy one to open up about or to share. However, I believe in vulnerability & openness we allow ourselves to cultivate a life where we desire to learn, be challenged, to grow & to be better.
“Letting go of comparison is not a to-do list item
For most of us, it’s something that requires constant awareness. It’s so easy to take our eyes off our path to check out what others are doing and if they’re ahead or behind us. Creativity, which is the expression of our originality, helps us stay mindful that what we bring to the world is completely original and cannot be compared. And, without comparison, concepts like ahead or behind or best or worst lose their meaning.” -Brene Brown